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DESCRIPTION – Faced with the discomfort of their father or mother, some children become daily crutches to support them and try to cure them (in vain) of their psychological suffering.
Sometimes it happens that the family is dysfunctional, everyone’s roles change, and the child becomes the parent of his parent. This is the case of a father or mother in serious psychological distress after a loss, divorce, depression, or some other deep wound related to previous trauma. The parent then leans on the child and unconsciously asks him to mend the wounds. We’re talking about (reasonably) Child Therapist Syndrome. “The parent-child relationship changes when the father or mother cannot manage their suffering for a long time and breaks down,” says Bruno Clavier, a clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst and author of the book. These children who want to heal their parents (1).
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On the other hand, a child, whether a baby or a teenager, absorbs the parent’s emotions and feels the balance of the family being shaken. However, “he needs to know that the people who take care of him are doing well,” explains Bruno Clavier. Unless his parent…
Source: Le Figaro
