The cries of newborns are both to communicate and are a real headache for those who try to decipher them. Lighting with Nicolas Matevon of Neuropsychological Nicolas.
Whoever has never been discouraged when listening to his child’s crying, he surprised that it was hungry, fatigue, or just disappointment to throw his pacifiers. The tears of newborns, this universal and impervious language sometimes seem to be endlessly tested by parents’ patience. Fortunately, Nicolas Matevon, a professor at the University of Saint-Etienne and a practical school (PSL), has just published a book that can change the situation well. In Understand your child. To cry the secret language (Ed. Tana) allows us to decipher this cry. Here are some tips to improve our ear and answer it.
Call for help, not whim
Newborn cries are often perceived as a discomfort, but it is quite powerful emotional signals. “From birth, this is one of the only means of communication available to the child. He is like us like us, and his whistle is a priority for survival. When he feels immediate threat, he seeks to attract the attention of adults who care about him. “
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Contrary to a long time, these complaints are not necessarily the sign of immediate physical need, they can also reflect more complex emotions. “There is no” whistle “or a clearly identifiable” dirty layer “, it is not encrypted in this way, nervous. The same goes for tears at the end of the day, usually called “Discharge Tears”. A scientific explanation has not yet been presented. “
In fact, these voice demonstrations are in context, and it is the circumstances that allow them to be interpreted. According to Nicolas Matevony, parents need to learn to know their folons in their environment. When did the child eat? Does he shows sucking signs? Is it in a quiet or noisy place? Does he calibrate when we take him in arms? With the age of observation and adjustment, we can better understand our needs. “It is a matter of attention to the details and constantly adjust,” he said. And first of all, he insists. “You should never ignore whistle, especially in the first months. It’s not capricious but call for help. Answering this, you help him develop a sense of security and trust. “
Should never ignore a whistle, especially in the first months. It’s not capricious but call for help
Nicolas Matevon, Professor of Neurology of Saint-Eten University
Experience, key to better understand
The stubborn myth wants mothers naturally better understand the crying of their child. The nuclear denies him. “There is no difference between mothers and fathers to understand their child’s crying. It’s not an instinct matter, but learning. ” Thus, every parent can, over time, review and repetition, learn to distinguish different types of crying elegs. “Research shows that after 2 to 3 days, parents start making a difference and respond more accurately to their child’s needs,” the researcher said.
Stay carefully to the cruel changes
By regulating his breath, his vocal wires, his language position and the opening of his mouth, the child changes the characteristics of his shock. These variations show different levels of displeasure or suffering. “Delicate and regular quanting can point out a little worry, while intense more acute or seriously cry, without any musical, is often associated with distress, as well as in the case of collique.” However, he warns of commonalities. “Every child has his vocal signature, which affects his morphology, such as his voice wires. The intensity and duration of sound is important, but they are different from one child to another, “the neuroscope irritates.
It’s an experience again that allows parents to learn to distinguish between confusion and the manifestation of suffering. However, the cruel change in the frequency of tinge or crying should be taken into account. “If the child weeps in an unusual way, it can show that there is a mistake that is wrong,” the researcher warns. If you are in doubt, it is necessary to consult a health professional to exclude any serious situation.
Each child has their vocal signature
Nicolas Matevon, Professor of Neurology of Saint-Eten University
Lyulabs, soothing tool
There are cribs among the tools available to parents. These are not only traditional songs. They play an important role in a child’s tranquility. “These songs have a special, slow and sweet rhythm, which naturally invites you to turn to the left right. This movement accompanies the child and soothes it, “says Nicolas Matevon.
In addition to music, there is a physical contact in the process. “It creates an immediate and relaxing connection to your child or exercising the skin against you.” In addition, other strategies such as the child walking, showing pictures of or gently talk to him, can also help distract from confusion and calm him down.
Child care is easier for a few
The child’s tears can be exhaustive, especially for parents who are not used to child management. If you feel depressed, you don’t feel guilty. It’s not a weak, but a sign that you have to rely on its network, call back Nicolas Matev. He begs the “Cooperative breeding” model. “Social support is very important. Parents who have a network around them, be a family member, neighboring or health professional, is less likely to predominate by crying. “
As you can see, taking care of yourself is necessary for your child’s care. If you feel at the end, you need to put your child in a safe place, for example his back in his bed, leave him and break the neurologist. “If you don’t have yourself, don’t hesitate to contact the neonatology service. These units can offer temporary breathing and help figure out what is wrong. “
Understand that crying is just a stage
Finally, it is very important to remember that intensive crying in the first months is only a stage, a normal communication process, and that they will eventually decrease. “The culmination of the crying is mainly during 6 to 8 weeks, and gradually calms after the first three months, assures Nicolas Matevon. It is a stage of development, and like any stage, it passes. ” This certainty can be great moral support. “Repeat that they will finally go.”
(1) Understand your child. To cry the secret languageNicolas Matevon, published by Tana Editions, 176 pages 18.90 euros.
Source: Le Figaro
