Psychoanalyst gives tips for women who want to get rid of this type of relationship and live a lighter year
Theoretically, no one proposes to live a unhealthy relationship and all human beings seek a version of the famous: happily ever after, that relationship worthy of a margarine commercial. But for some reason, sometimes that doesn’t happen and what was supposed to be promising turns out to be evil.
“A toxic relationship is one that negatively affects a person’s health and well-being and the most serious thing is that the person starts to believe that they deserve that situation and starts living in a circle”explains the psychoanalyst Kélida Marques.
According to the expert on relationships, self-esteem and the sacred feminine, in a toxic relationship people tend to spend a lot of their time and energy on negative things like jealousy, possession, fights.
“And this relationship ends up influencing all other areas. That’s why it’s so common for people who live in a sick relationship to suffer from other problems, such as illness and lack of money”, summed up.
From the outside, it may seem easy to spot a toxic relationship. But things get more complicated when viewed from the inside, as toxicity can often be mixed with a few flashes of romance.
“It’s hard to see an abusive relationship because it’s not so simple to admit that we’re being abused by someone, and even more so if that someone is someone we think we love so much. Second, a toxic relationship doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time, even ‘blind’ us. The person can end up using emotional blackmail, many apologies, flowers and gifts just to mock all the harm that ends up causing us”pointed out the professional.
Kélida notes that the term “toxic” can be open to some interpretations and what is toxic to one person may be perceived as normal to another. That’s why it’s important to look at each relationship for its specific characteristics as much as possible. However, there are still universal boundaries that your partner should never cross.
“If you always feel like you’re walking on eggshells to say anything because you’re afraid your partner will fight or if you don’t feel reciprocity in the relationship anymore, investing a lot of time, feelings and even money and don’t get anything in return, it’s time to stop and think if it’s really worth continuing”, she said.
She added: “If you notice that your partner is jealous, competitive and is not happy with your victories, in addition to always wanting to control your life, your clothes, money, etc., this is a great indication of a toxic relationship”.
In such a relationship, people also tend to feel their sense of self-worth dramatically diminish. “If that’s the case, you should examine the extent to which your partner contributed to this outcome. If he puts you down, criticizes, judges, disrespects, or ignores you, it’s time to walk away.”advised the psychoanalyst.
It’s important, she notes, to look for people to count on, be it friends, family and especially a specialist.
“Seek help, ask for a lap, do therapy, yoga, anything that helps! It’s not easy, but the first step is to observe and count on those who love us to get out of this cycle and go in search of self-love and then who knows , on this new path you find someone who can make you feel light, full and respected and when you least expect it, you can be living real love, which is worth it”concluded the specialist.
About Gypsy Kélida: Owner of one of the main YouTube channels on Spirituality with more than 830 thousand subscribers and more than 60 million views on her videos, Kélida, who is also a psychoanalyst, hypnologist and holistic reiki therapist, performs online consultations, promotes healing rituals, blessings and vigil , constantly and free of charge. She makes predictions, rituals,
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Source: Maxima
