Most of the time, the death of someone is a situation that takes family and friends by surprise. People are not usually prepared for this type of situation. However, it is something that all of us will experience one day in our lives and, even so, it usually causes pain.
Generally, when the death of a personality known and loved by the public happens – as was the case with the departure of journalist Glória Maria (considered an icon of Brazilian television) –, we also stop to reflect on grief and, sometimes, we even feel it.
Importance of support during grief
At times like this, people usually mean well when they try to comfort someone who is in distress. grief. But using the right words is difficult, and sometimes the wrong language can even hurt someone who is already going through a painful situation.
In most cases, it is difficult to get through the situation and the presence of someone close can help. “One of the most important attitudes for those who are going through grief is not to choose isolation. The company of loved ones is paramount in these moments,” says Milene Rosenthal, co-founder of Telavita, a digital mental health clinic.
Show that you care
The professional recalls that anyone who is accompanying someone’s suffering needs to pay attention to details that make a difference. “Possible mistakes in how we express our sympathy for others, usually arise from our discomfort in witnessing another person in pain. But it’s never too late to let someone know you care,” she adds.
how to show compassion
For those looking for ideas on how to be truly supportive, Milene Rosenthal offers some tips on how to center compassion when we respond to grief and loss.
1. Avoid saying that everything will be fine
People who are grieving don’t want to hear things like that their loved one is in a better place. Instead, simply reassure them that you are with them.
2. Validate the pain the person shares
You can tell her that what she feels makes sense or that it’s okay to feel the emotions with which you are dealing.
3. Don’t ask someone in grief what you can do for them
They already have many things on their minds. Instead, make specific offers: “Can I leave coffee?” or “Can I sit with you?”.
4. Avoid comparing someone else’s suffering to yours.
Instead of saying, “Me too I lost someoneso I know how you feel,” say, “I know how painful this is for you.”
5. Get away
It’s hard to witness suffering, so pull away when you need to. When you have a chance to regain your strength, return to accompanying your grieving family member or friend.
By Adriane Garotti
Source: Maxima
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