Knowing how to say, no whole art is not always clear. To fix it and set boundaries with its surroundings, the American psychologist reveals his best parades to reject the invitation without insulting anyone.
The weekend arrives, and with him, the uncompromising desire to close the shutters to turn off his phone and think about nothing but breathing, solo or family. Of course, social invitations arise. Apertff, Anniversary, Concert … The idea of rejecting them is de facto throwing us in the Ocean of Sin. However, as it was emphasized at Instagram Becky Kennedy, the Clinical Psychologist graduated from Columbia University and the World’s Besteler Author Well inside (carefully parents, In its French version) It is very important to agree with impunity, from moments to him. “It is not only a matter of defining borders with others, but also to respect them,” he explained in the publication on Wednesday May 21.
1- “It’s a great idea. Our family must spend time this weekend, so this Saturday and this Sunday will not work. Find another moment “
This message could not be more clear here. We could also summarize “not this weekend, but thank you.” And the last sentence leaves an open door to schedule a later date. Finally we don’t give up, we just change.
2- “I try to be more attended by my family and have less time on the phone. If I don’t answer right away this is why. I appreciate your patience “
There is no physical but virtual access to physical but virtual access. If some people may seem like a vision in the eyes, a text that has been left unanswered or missed, has some misunderstanding, sadness, and even anger. And yet, we don’t live on his phone, even less, on weekends, and it is important to remind his loved ones. This message offered by Becky Kennedy is not a personal assault, just a way to make this choice of life calmly.
3- “Thank you for thinking about me. Unfortunately I can’t “
Direct and unequivocally, this SMS leaves no place of ambiguity. It is not necessary to justify yourself for hours, or more badly lie to your friends, sometimes it is enough “no” to understand himself and understand.
4- “I know you want to see us and children. We love you as much investors. This time we don’t meet our calendar “
This is an elegant message that bears his interlocutor in a good hair without doing too much. Ideal for a steppedal or distant cousin, which is too intrusive, all this strategy is based on the other, which corresponds to the other and validates its reality.
5- “I would really like to catch up with the lost time but I need a small place to charge my batteries. Can we see each other later during the week? “
Until you live on another planet, it cannot be ignored the degradation of the French mental health. According to health insurance, 1 of 4 people will stimulate their lives with a mental disorder, and more than a quarter of employees already reports mental suffering. So many reasons to understand why some people pass their needs in front of others. This message is a perfect illustration and proves that by leaving a little social, we also restore funds to find better.
Source: Le Figaro
