What is “Boomerasking”, this annoying measure to bring everything into a conversation with him?

The script is familiar with. You are evening, and a friend is asking you for your projects on weekends. You are briefly replying because you don’t have a minor idea, and there without warning, your interlocutor gives you a long monologue on his projects. You just had a victim of “Boomerasking”, a toxic conversation technique consisting of asking a question without answering, quickly recovering yourself. Inspired by Boomerang Effect, which means an action that leads to the opposite consequence of this concept, this concept was provided by Professor of Management by Alison Wood Brooks, an anodelic arts specialist in Harvard business school. In the column published in the column Wall Street JournalOn January 21, 2025, the teacher details the behavioral works.

When Ego captures

If the attitude is also common, it is that it is revealed under different profiles. In a recent study of the March 2025 publication Magazine of experimental psychology Alison Wood Brooks and his counterpart’s researcher Michael Yemen depicts three main ones. “Vacant Jobs” consisting of boasting, “Claim-Simple”, and finally “lawsuit party”, to show its last nightmare to demonstrate the insignificant minor joke.

“Boomerasker” is required to be poisonous self-government. The answer to this question is not very clear. According to Alison Wood Brooks, Egocentrism is an integral part of our human nature. “From 40% to 60% of our conversations touches ego, that is, they need to focus on our own feelings, opinions and personal experience. We are more pronounced on social media, reach 80%, “he said. However, it is usually accepted that excess navel is rough in society. That’s why we would try to hide it by all means, sometimes using “Boomerasking”, teaching us a professor at Harvard Business School.

Return to sincere exchanges

But it is clear that this well-known technique does not deceive anyone. “Boomerasker is trying to achieve two contradictory goals. Show interest in his interlocutor, while he shakes himself. But as soon as they arrived, he failed on two pictures, “says Alison Wood Brook. According to his investigation, this badly hidden self-employment would be better than fully understood than fully assumed. “The fact of not spreading your interlocutor and answering your question, the other imposes the impression that you do not think about him, and that you probably do not think of this conversation,” said the specialist.

It is still worse, the abuse of “Bumerasking” will break out what makes the essence of the conversation. “By asking for sincere questions, listening to others can be the easiest and most powerful way to the common and interpersonal connection,” said Alison Wood Brook. And to continue. “If it’s good to talk about yourself, and if it can bring us closer when another person shares their point of view, focus on them. We all need to strive to be more interested in the people around us, even before they are, how interesting we are. ” Everyone is equal in front of the ego.