“Am I really capable?” how to get out of the suffocating sense of illegitimacy

Illegal. In everyday life, this term refers to relationships or children born out of wedlock, unrecognized. Or any basis that has no basis – illegal fears. Interestingly, it is with this term that women often choose their access to a higher position… “I don’t feel legitimate,” they say, even talking about “impostor syndrome”. I write “they” because, although I have never found specific studies on the subject, the coaches confirm me all. this feeling attracts them more than men. I write “they”, but I could write “I”. At every step taken in the past, the same sad question may arise. “Am I really capable?”

The lure of the mouse hole

I know this today – time, work, always do their job. It takes several months, sometimes more, to live in new clothes and cover this little inner voice that is already turning into a whisper. I know that the unpleasant phase of doubt that passed is coming back