Tabu is falling with a poisonous father or mother. Many children of generation X, which have become adults and renovation therapy.
When asked to describe his relationship with his parents, Polye *, 36-year-old, he did not hesitate for a long time. Recently, the young woman realized the complex root of its independent personality (she left 17), she had to capture the “whole place” (she had) for continuous establishment. Like most of his close friends (his “chosen family”, he said, responding to parental petitions for years, without receiving anything, he chose nothing more. “They will say that you are always more unhappy.”
The synonym of the poison may mean asymmetric friendship, unfortunate love or violent management. But, according to Julie Arkulin, coach and authors Survive toxic parents (Ed. Book Mail) is the most suitable term to describe these misguided relationships. He immediately states that all poisonous parents are not monsters. The scale of poisoning goes from one to ten. Some people are dominant, criticisms, contemptible, manipulators, or simply resign and fail to offer minor hearing to their children. “It is a parent who consciously or not, does not take into account the needs of his child, who are guilty of the victims of his child.
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Children agreed for sin
When he started working on this issue, fifteen years ago, his patients refused to connect their suffering for parental behavior. But the expert thinks that things are gradually changing. Moreover, in the survey of Barometer Jeunesse & Confity, which was published in January of January 16, 14% of young people aged 16 and 25 celebrate poisonous relations with their parents. Feel every few times more to this day, like Paulin’s teenager, feel strong family restrictions. What is special in this dynamic, that it does not stop leaving for the house. Even if they go out, the children are kept in a certain state. “It is difficult to become an adult for these children to feel guilty, to be gadgets for their parents.
If he has long advised his patients to break in connection with their toxic parents, he is now inclined to offer this offer. The task is to hang on the phone if you attack … Reflexes that victims do not always have to have. “
Ruined emotions
“When I was small in the movies and series, I saw that parents and children forgave them. But it never worked. He who grew up with a violent and misconductor dad and abuse, failed to protect his children, became a psychologist. “My father was driving the voice of the TV when I told me about my day. All my emotions were extinguished. It is therapy, friendship and meeting with her husband, who decides to stop communication before the company is always saying that you should love your parents. “My mother had cancer, and it was difficult to manage for me. How to help him when he had left me? “
Cutting bridges is not quite clear because it is a new limit to a person
Julie Arcoulin, coach and author
Who has the worst mother?
Before you work together before comics Mammy (Glénat publications, February 2025), screenwriter Sofi Adridats and designer Musalls Caroline often played “Who had the worst mother?” These jokes appeared in the history of the character of the Aliks, a young mother aimed at a mother, black figure and famous words. Gradually, he is aware of what this relationship is and finds himself the way to defend himself, cutting bridges in his way. “The decision to cut bridges with the author is unknown … and more when you grow up with someone who is suffering from childbirth. As his motherhood, motherhood introduced a particularly violent awareness of Sophie Adringsen. “I live permanently with the fear of becoming my mother.
If the writing was not therapeutic or was doomed to respond to his mother, the scenario hopes that this story would bring keys to “slow spread of this poison” and its variable geography. The sister of the main hero who has no children does not have the same relationship with his mother, he does not obey his wrath. A reality that the screenwriter wanted to say. The grandchildren are often witnessed, used to maintain violence. Moreover, according to the IFOP study of 2021, 44% of grandparents say toxic small expressions, speaking about the way they raise their children.
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Act without a small sound of the little one’s head
Toni, 38, the mother of both, still fights to “heal his dysfunctional family.” That was when he had his first daughter, that he began his therapeutic work with a mourning specialist, then gain the trust of an adult and good mother. At the same time, after the monitoring of the mother’s coercive, the music finally listened to the music, dressed as she wanted to her father, she wanted her father. He followed the support of parenthood (proposed by the Family Benefit Foundation) to ensure that the poison stop there. “I had to cut the bridges to feel good and limit the effect of this packaging on my built family,” he said. The young woman makes her hidden campaign for parents to pass her hope that one can be treated with parents. “My daughter has its own taste.” The end of the cycle soon.
* The name has changed.
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Source: Le Figaro
