Marie-Pierre Dillenzeger. “Whether you’re looking to rent or buy a home, you need to ask yourself: “Do I feel pleasure or anxiety?”

The places where we live, where we move from, which we build or renovate are always much more than a roof. our exchanges and often support our plans for the future.For Marie-Pierre Dillensager, a specialist in Chinese vitality practices, the home is a space with which we maintain a threefold relationship, far from being limited by a spatial configuration.

He explains it to us over hot squeezed lemons in Paris (the author lives a lot on the East Coast of the United States and a little in France), and in a book entitled: In a cozy home, 23 practices for peace, energy and finding your placepublished by Éditions Robert Laffont. However, he summarizes the point as follows. “A place of refuge is at once a refuge to which we choose to retreat, an anchor to which we regain our strength, and a springboard from which we can (recover) ourselves.”

Make an alliance with the place

Whether we are looking to rent or buy, there is always a real estate agent who will tell us: “Quick. It must be decided today!” Imperative! Otherwise it is doomed.” The human comedy, counters the expert, who invites us to resist the pressure. In Chinese thought, we speak of places as breathing beings.”

According to him, during the first visit, mostly under conditions of great stress, the right questions to ask yourself are: What do I see outside the window and how does the light come in? “Whatever our budget, we should try not to put our bags in a place that holds us back. But trust your feelings, it’s a partnership that starts , but we often forget it,” adds Marie-Pierre Dillenseger. Hence his warning. “When you don’t feel it, listen to yourself, don’t go.” »

Feel restored

The author is sure of it. “Talk about it with those around you. water damage is almost always experienced as a trauma. Because it sends us back a sense of unhappiness, or worse, of disaster. It is universal because we take it personally. We are with it flowing.” For our author, fed by travel, it is important to understand that a home is a space that becomes a “partner” over the years. Which must be kindly treated. If it has long remained uninhabited, ‘therefore inactive, it is a heavy burden to maintain. Are we ready for that?” asks the specialist.

If you’re not up to it, you’d better look for something else before you collapse with it. “Marking our territory starts with refusing to enter a pre-known dead end, it’s about reaching out to a place we know we’re enslaved to.” that we won’t be,” the author adds. No matter what happens, everywhere, let’s not allow cracks to appear, windows not to close properly, objects to accumulate, various compositions to accumulate… “The house is never neutral. Everyone needs to understand how best to engage in it to feel nourished and restored.”

The more we domesticate a place, the better we occupy its spaces, the more we establish ourselves within it. “Place has a therapeutic function that does not speak its name. Also, when we move in a group, it often helps us to differentiate ourselves, to change our positions, and therefore our relationships … which can be strengthened or destroyed,” adds the author.

For him, who in his book also offers practical exercises that are as fun as they are profound, the main question of feeling good and better at home consists of understanding how a place “gives us strength, allows us to accumulate it, ” preserve it, deploy it.” Since each place is unique, far from the so-called logistical and functional relations, what remains to be created is truly an “energy alliance.” Let’s try?