The four fears that ruin our lives. Denis Novikov/Getty Images/iStockphoto
ADVICE – They are often taken for prudence, simplicity, or even humility. Hence the need to unmask them to identify and neutralize them.
Fear of judgment from others
What we tell ourselves. I’m going to be funny; people will think about me one way or another; Before I act, I better explain and justify what I intend to do…
The results: The weight of others’ views limits initiatives, inhibits action, every skill is questioned, scrutinized, every project is seen through the prism of difficulty, incompetence, improvement or failure. And when this view is too heavy, too frightening, those who suffer from it choose to give up, or even not initiate any project, because their emotional cost is too high.
Explanations: a very harsh, moralizing, very critical education that emphasizes error, error, failure and demonizes them. A conformist family culture that primarily cares not to be noticed and therefore prohibits taking risks. Excessive parental expectations, pushing yourself to excel, perfectionism and intolerance…
Source: Le Figaro
